And, the teacher is not allowed to say so, but she has beaten around the bush about "options" in helping Avery.
After hanging out last night with three other rambunctious darling boys and a kindergarten teacher who was telling stories of her children punching and hitting eachother in the face,
i went to bed that night wondering if my kid really isnt all that bad.
What goes on in my mind...
"Yes, he is wild. WAY more wild than any kid in his class.. Yes, he colors outside the lines and scribbles his HW.. Yes he is the only one who cant sit still on the rug, but thats just who he is right? He can read better than all the other kids.. so what if he doesnt want to color in the goddamned pumpkin perfectly."
Whats going on in my mind 24 hours later...
"YOu cant survive in this world without conforming at least a little. He will be outcasted. Tossed under the rug by the teachers, We must do something! Hes going to get himself in trouble. He will be doing drugs to self shooth himself when he is a teenager.
He will never be able to get a decent job. he will never finish school. He will not be able to apply himself. It is our responsibility as parents to help him control himself. "
He doesnt hurt anyone. He is not malicious. he is loving and hyper and .. yes very defiant, (which drives us all INSANE) but..not mean.
I came across this article randomly... and it really made me think. (i think i just need to stop thinking so hard.)
Im bouncing back and forth between this whole ADHD thing. For a girl who cant even make a decision about what brand of tortillas to buy this week, determining the future of your child is big. like.. REAL big.
2 comments:
don't buy the kind with hydrogenated oil in them. tough call on the kid though. is there a medium or in between? can you set a time frame, maybe 3 months, and try giving him 1/2 the dosage they suggest? keep a journal and close eye on his actions and have sit downs with him where you try to get his feedback on the situation and if he feels any different. after the three months you could decide to go another three months or call it quits. maybe if stop entirely during summer. i don't know anything about this stuff, just throwing out an idea.
Oh Lori, I'm sorry you're having such a rough time. I can totally see both sides and it IS a tough decision either way. Medication: I don't think it's ever anyone's first choice, but if you think it will help him, you could always try it and monitor him closely. You can always, always take him off it. Option 2: Have you looked into alternative schools (or even homeschooling/unschooling - I think there is an "unschool" in Walnut Creek area - or even online school)? Maybe traditional school just isn't right for Avery? If you remove him from the situation (school) and all is well, then maybe Option 2 is the way to go. If his actions are only hurting himself whether in school or out, then maybe consider the meds? Trust your momma's instinct! Love you, good luck!
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